Wednesday, July 8, 2015

There is no Relationship Without Trust

Hey guys! It's me again after a while of disappearing somewhere! As you guys know, I'm not in Korea right now. I'm currently enjoying my summer break in USA and that's why I have not been active these days! But don't worry! I will still blog when I have some free time, like today! lol Anyway, today we will talk about the relationship between love and trust! Without trust in a relationship, there is no relationship. Having someone break your trust, particularly if it's a serious betrayal, can be one of the most painful experiences in life. There will be a number of situations during your lifetime where people will let you down, whether it's something as innocent and unintentional as forgetting a lunch date, or he doesn't keep his promises. You will have your trust broken.

Is there anything worse than someone who does not keep their promises? If your boyfriend does not keep his promises like you expect, You might be irritable, and get into arguments with your boyfriend, right? Real men don't make promises they can't keep! When they break they promise they demonstrate that their promise to you is meaningless. It shows us that they have no willpower nor backbone in carrying out what they say they will. It indicates that they are weak or they just don't care enough for you to keep it. Their promise is empty just as the results they get are empty. They do not care. They are not loyal. Their word or promise is of no value, it sucks!

For me trust one of the most important requirements of a good relationship. Successfully relationship couples never lie on their spouse! When you trust someone, your mind is at peace, and even the thought of that person brings joy to your heart. If I cannot trust someone then I am damn sure that I can never truly love that person. Trust is the most important thing to build up a relationship. People think they know how to, but sometimes it doesn't work with some people. Building trust is a very important part of a relationship, and without it, relationships can be very stressful. Do you agree or disagree?

If you are lying, or trying to hide some true feeling by not quite saying all that is on your mind, she will be able to tell. She might even think you fooling her, which can tear down the trust in your relationship. Trust is like a mirror once its broken, its never seen the same again and no matter how hard you try. 
When it is broken, however, there is a deep and unsettling pain at even the mention of the offender’s name. A girl, no matter how many times she denies it, she will always remember every detail, every moment, every piece of the memories you've lied to her. No matter how much she tries to forget, it will always be there.

When someone breaks their promise to another person he lets the other person down. As a result of that disappointment and the bad feelings negative associations pile up. The person gets a reputation of being a "let down", "a disappointment" and of being an untrustworthy person. You don't want that, do you? When you make a promise or give your word to anyone the expectations are that you will keep it. Your word is your bond! A person only has their word to give and nothing else. If you say, "I will quit smoking" the smoking is the item you promised! If you don't quit smoking you broke your word. Do you get it? It's what you say! If you can't be trusted to keep your word what have you? What are you worth? It would be better to not say or promise anything than to break your word!

A relationship needs trust in order to continue thriving and growing in a healthy way. If trust is broken in the relationship, the betrayed partner may find it harder to forgive and move past the hurt. Lying, whether it's about small things or about big things, can be one of the quickest ways to end your relationship. When trust is broken, love is diminished and damaged. 
Can a relationship survive when trust has been broken? Repairing it take time and effort! When trust is lost, getting it back can sometimes seem like an impossible mountain to climb, repairing the ties which have been severed can be possible with commitment and sincerity. The pain heals after a while. I lived with so much fear, hurt and guilt for many years, but now those are just memories. Some day I'll tell you my story!

The following are five key things I recommends to know and do when it comes to re-establishing broken trust!

1. Never make a promise that you are not sure you can keep and only make promises you can keepYour words and actions must come from unwavering integrity. Simply put, what you say you're going to do, you do. No lies. No excuses. No exceptions. Do not disappoint anyone by making a promise you won't keep! If you make excuses and blame circumstances you demonstrate you are not in charge of your life. You made a promise, broke it and then whine or complain that it isn't your fault that something came up. No one cares about your reasons for failure they only know you did not deliver. Is it only a promise when you say, ‘I promise’? HELL NO! A promise is implied whenever you say you will do anything or offer to do anything. The promise is always inferred. It is understood that you intend to deliver. If you won't deliver don't say you will. It is just as bad to break your promise to yourself as it is to another person.

2. I know everyone makes mistakes, and forgiveness is optional. I understand what you are going through as I had similar experiences. When someone makes a mistake by betraying your trust, it is up to you to decide whether or not you can forgive them. The most difficult part is the decision, right? You may never forget what happened, but you can forgive. Forgiving means that you don't hold onto negative feelings about the betrayal, and you can go back to trusting the other person. If you can't trust him after what he did, then it's time to move on and trying to find new love! lol

3. Give your partner the time and space to vent their feelings. This includes crying, allowing them to ask you questions about the affair and giving truthful answers. All the while, you should stand strong, stay faithful, continue to apologise and reach out to them with compassion and understanding.

4. Be more mindful and patient with yourself when you embark on the journey of repairing your trust issues. It may take many tries before you are finally able to succeed in breaking through your guard, but the effort is worthwhile. With time and work you will finally be able to understand what it means to be in a trusting and loving relationship.

5. Ask your partner what they need, do whatever you can to change the situation and make it better.

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I hope you enjoy this post and see you guys on my next post. For those who want to suggest what's should we discuss in the next girls talk post, simply leave a comment below! 

Christin Tomntins
Tom and Tins, Updated at: 2:57 PM


  1. I am sure everyone has been betrayed one way or the other sometime in our life. It may be painful but willingness to forgive helps us to move on in life. Good post!

  2. Very good post and very true words!
    I like your style of typing... :-)
    Kind regards,

  3. Great post dear.Absolutely very true.
    Hope you enjoy your summer break
    Kisses xoxo

  4. Great post, go to

  5. Great Blog! maybe you want to stop on my blog?

  6. Some excellent points, I agree that trust is essential in any friendship, relationship or other! Have a wonderful time in America! :)

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice


  7. Really wonderful thoughts and the photos are quite amazing.

  8. Wow have a nice summer trip!

  9. Looks like you having a great time!!

    I enjoyed your reflection of trust in a relationship. Your tips to gain/earn back trust are right on!

    All the Cute
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  10. How beautiful your text ... Unfortunately the lack of confidence has separated many people :/

  11. I love your post! Trust is truly a knowledge to learn through life <3
    Hope can know about your story life soon!


  12. Really interesting post...thx for sharing!

  13. This was so good post! So many thinks maked me think about life and relationships. Have a nice day dear ! And have a lovely time i there USA:)


  14. Wonderful pictures kiss

  15. Follow you :)

  16. Just discovered you but I like how you write.
    TRUST is essencial. Thanks for the 5 tips!

    Miss Greyhound

  17. A relationship without trust isn't a relationship!

  18. Great post!!! I agree!!!

  19. Oh, I agree and I have nothing to add!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  20. Great post, I do agree with you ;) xo

  21. This is a lovely post. Wise words! ^.^

    Thank you for dropping by my blog. Yes, I'd love to follow you on gfc. Have done so on G+ too. ;)

  22. Nice post! and the photo is amazing!


  23. What a lovely post, trust and communication go hand in hand I think. You can only move on once trust has been broken if the communication is there to know why whatever happened happened and realistically if things are any different in the current situation for it not to occur again.

    1. Aw! thank you for kind words, and Thank you for stopping by!^^

  24. Great blog!
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