Monday, May 11, 2015

Facts About Korean Dating

Hello ladies! Today it's Monday and I'm just doing my homework all day long! I didn't even get out from my room to have a dinner and shower. I'm pretty tired since this week I always sleep very late night and most of my classes are morning class so I have to wake up early as well (ㅠㅠ). Not as my previous blog post about skin care review or restaurant or cafe review, today we're going to have girls talk! So, are you ready? Let's start now shall we?

Guys do you ever worry that you won't meet your soul mate? When I was single, I was always worried. I was meeting lots of guys but no one I really wanted to date and the guys I did like already had girlfriend or wife (ㅠㅠ). I'm really sad but I can't cry! But once I met Jong*****, I realized that I was dumb to have worried so much. My boyfriend is South Korean. He was born in South Korea, and raised in Australia. I met my boyfriend (Jong*****) 3 years ago in Korea at COEX Mall with my friend and we just had our dinner at Andong Jjimdak (안동 찜닭) Restaurant. My oppa and I were introduced through mutual Korean friends. Having friends introduce you is a safe way, rather than meeting someone through the internet. A stranger is anyone you don't know very well or you have never seen before, you must always be careful until you know for sure whether someone is kind and can be trusted. Anyway, I try to always be aware of my surroundings.

It seems like Korean guys are in demand because many of my girlfriends from another country have been telling me how much they'd like to learn Korean to date Korean boys. I have been with my oppa for almost 3 years but I still find myself staring at him when he is not looking and nervous when I know I'm going to see him. My parents and my big family loved him when they met him and said he was the best guy I’d ever dated. I can do all the things I want to do and every day I fell more and more in love with him. I also had started to realise that I didn't necessarily have to give up any dreams to be with him because he is an extremely kind man and we are really well matched. He was sweet and he declared that I was the one he wanted to marry. He is funny and he makes me laugh so much, enthusiastic and always open to trying new things, but sometimes he is grumpy and I just get so annoyed, so I have to speak out.

Well, if you want to date a Korean guy then this is what to be expected! In general, Korean guys are more hardworking when it comes to relationships. I must say that there is some merit to Korean guys dating style that is hard to match and there are also things that are particularly stressful when dating Korean guys. So here, I list out some of the common occurrences of dating a Korean guy based on my personal experience. Don't be shocked!

1. If they truly love you, they will give you everything that they have and even cry for you!

2. A Korean guy is always checking out on his girl, whether you get back home safe after a date or you're still out with your friends.

3. If you watch Korean dramas, Korean guys usually don't say I love you most of the time. They met, dated, kissed but I never heard the phrase I love you until the time they were about to get married. Don't be stressed! Korean guys are like that! Saying that love expression is really difficult and serious for a Korean and you will just hear it from him rarely.

4. When walking on the sidewalk, they always make sure they are on the outer lane closer to the cars.

5. They will take off their coat for you in cold weather.

6. Anything heavy or difficult to do, they feel responsible to solve or do it for his girlfriend.

7. Being the Oppa in Korea, age determines how you refer to one another (unlike in America where everyone calls each other names). When a guy is older than a girl, the girl refers to this guy as Oppa.

8. Korean guys are great at keeping in touch, constantly. This made it hard for me because Korean guys will text you every day and many also call you every day. Sometimes I get annoyed by how much they will contact you, but this means he loves you.

9. Korean guys can be very jealous of someone. Some things that I witnessed Korean couples often fight about: 
* Texting an opposite gender and calling an opposite gender, talking to an opposite gender and looking at an opposite gender 
* Thinking about an opposite gender so basically anything that has to do with the opposite gender is a NO. I may be exaggerating a tiny bit, but Korean couples tend to be extremely bonded and with such bond comes such craziness.

10. One thing that Korean guys seem to enjoy doing is refer to themselves as Oppa! For instance, instead of saying I'll buy you dinner or I'll do that for you, they will say Oppa will buy you dinner or Oppa will do that for you. 
Seriously, when a guy that I'm not too interested does this, every bit of hair on my body stands up. Good thing that comes with this phenomenon is that Korean guys in general are very responsible and almost trained to take care of girls in all ways possible.

11. I think breakups rarely end in good terms among Korean couples. I rarely see Korean couples continuing to be friends after a break up (I even did it), it's partly because there is no such thing as friendship between a girl and a guy.

12. If you have serious problems and you fight with your Korean boyfriend, he will come to meet you even late night because they want to make it perfectly clear on that day.

13. Do dress up on your dates because these Korean boys will dress up or suit up every time they take you out. It's not uncommon for a guy to show up wearing a shirt, khaki, a blazer, matching shoes, and perfectly done hair to a date at an amusement park. They often dress like they've popped out of print ads in magazines. But don't be too impressed because it’s probably 50% for other people to see, 30% for themselves, and 20% for you. Regardless, it’s good to see guys putting as much effort into looking nice and dolling up, but they would expect you to do the same.

14. No privacy, I guess all this chivalry comes with consequences. Not all, but surely many Korean boyfriends will ask to check your phone, kakaotalk or line. They expect to know your entire schedule in and out and also expects you to update him on your life constantly. This can be a bit frustrating, but girls often expect the same from guys so it’s a mutual thing I suppose. (FORTUNATELY MY OPPA NEVER CHECK MY PHONE!) I only always checked his phone!

15.  Korean boyfriend always helps carry's his girlfriend bag for her when they go out.

16. Special Celebrations and Couple things. So one of the oddest or coolest part of Korean dating culture is that couples celebrate gazillion and one things. Let me list a few that I have celebrated: 7 days, 1 month, 6 month, 100th day, 800th day, 1 year, 2 year, Valentine’s day, White day, Christmas, Children's day, Pepero day, Kiss day, Thanksgiving, New Years, and of course birthdays!

Overall, if you want to get a Korean guy to like you, you should try to be a kinder person, be interested in things so you can be interesting in a conversation, be trustworthy, and seduce him with your brain.

If you have a Korean guy you like, or if you are already in a relationship with Korean guy, we are happy to have been able to share our experiences and tell you what we have learned and if you have anything you are curious about Korean guys, leave it in the comment box below!

Christin Tomntins
Tom and Tins, Updated at: 10:30 PM

34 comments:

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  2. haha i have so many korean friends - i'll have to confirm with them! haha

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  5. These are interesting facts- love finding out new things :) Thanks for stopping by and we already follow each other :) xx Maja
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  7. I never fancy korean guys but reading this post makes me wanna meet one. The facts are sweet and too sweet. Thanks for this, we'll be keeping this in mind if ever i will meet one <3

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  10. From your sharing, Korean guys seem to be very responsible and caring, also very gentlemen.

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  11. Hey Very nice tips & I see, korean guys are thorough gentlemen

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  12. omg! I really love this post and love this sharing <3
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  14. Interesting post and tips. I don't know any Korean person, but wish I did. :)

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  16. WHOAA there are so many celebration you do together. In Indonesia, we'll usually do monthversary, anniversary, Valentine's day, Christmas (though this one depends on the religion they hold themselves) and New Year. That's it :D

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  17. Some stuff I would do, but something not, haha. Nice and interesting article again :) Lovely photos ♥

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